Lets start a 30 Day Sex Challenge this week. This is based on the ever popular Reddit 30 day challenge. We have adapted it to be all inclusive for our wonderful clients who been coming in and telling us that they have started doing 30 Day challenges to keep things fresh and reignite the intimacy.
Why do the 30 Day Sex Challenge?
Sometimes in relationships, sex and intimacy can fade from being the most important thing on the mind.
We are sidetracked by the daily grind, the pressure of work, life, kids, family, friends. Or even just the pressure we put on ourselves. Sometimes we have differing libidos or sex drives than our partners which is perfectly normal.
This challenge is about making time to make sex and intimacy a priority. To make love and reigniting passion in your relationship. Even if you already do the deed six ways on Sunday, our 30 day challenge will be a fresh breath of air, give you some neat tricks or that element of heat to spice things up.
In the spirit of positive and healthy sex perceptions, this is not about orgasming.
Sex should not be defined by an orgasm. It is about feeling good, about pleasure and about connection. If you orgasm- GREAT and if you feel AMAZING -FANTASTIC. Feel close? – BRILLIANT! Job well done!
MISSION ACCOMPLISHED
The 30 Day Sex Challenge
Rules
Each Partner Can Modify Two Activities
Before the challenge begins, each partner is allowed to modify or replace two activities on the list. This flexibility ensures that the challenge remains engaging and enjoyable for both individuals. It allows each person to tailor the experience to their preferences while still staying within the rules. Once the challenge begins, no further edits are permitted, encouraging commitment and creativity in exploring the planned activities together.
Two VETO Days for Flexibility
Both partners are granted two VETO days during the challenge. On these days, they can opt out of the assigned activity and simply enjoy a relaxed sexual experience. This rule introduces a level of comfort and adaptability, allowing participants to manage their boundaries while staying engaged with the challenge. VETO days ensure the experience remains fun without pressure, encouraging open communication and mutual respect between partners.
Adding New Activities
Partners have the option to add activities to the challenge list, provided both agree. This encourages creativity and collaboration, making the challenge feel personalised and exciting. Adding new activities can also help partners explore desires they may not have previously considered. By involving both individuals in shaping the experience, the rule fosters a sense of teamwork and mutual investment in the challenge’s success.
Pause Days for Special Circumstances
Life happens, and special circumstances like menstruation, holidays, or business travel may require the challenge to pause temporarily. This rule ensures that the challenge remains manageable and considerate of real-life situations. Pause days allow partners to stay committed without feeling overwhelmed or forced into activities during inconvenient times. Resuming the challenge afterward keeps the momentum while respecting both individuals’ physical and emotional needs.
Missed Days Extend the Challenge
If a planned activity is missed, the challenge is extended by a day to ensure every activity is completed. This rule creates accountability while maintaining flexibility, allowing for minor adjustments without derailing the experience. However, the total challenge length cannot exceed 40 days, ensuring it remains achievable. This encourages participants to stay engaged while recognising the importance of balance and realistic expectations.
Consent is Non-Negotiable
Consent is the foundation of the 30-day sex challenge. Both partners must fully agree to each activity, and no one should feel pressured to participate. The goal is to explore new experiences while respecting individual boundaries. Consent ensures the challenge fosters trust, mutual growth, and emotional intimacy. Pushing comfort levels is encouraged, but only within the realm of what both partners feel safe and willing to try.
Safe Sex Practices
Using condoms and birth control is strongly recommended whenever necessary during the challenge. Prioritising safe sex allows participants to enjoy the experience without worrying about unintended consequences. It’s important to discuss and agree on protection methods beforehand, ensuring both partners are on the same page. Safe sex practices promote a sense of security and responsibility, enhancing overall enjoyment and confidence throughout the challenge.
Day 1: Have Sex at a Time Other Than Before Bed
Shake up your routine by having sex at a different time of day, like a morning quickie or a lunchtime romp. Changing the timing adds spontaneity and can create a fresh sense of excitement. Daytime sex can be invigorating, helping couples reconnect outside of their usual nighttime rituals. Embrace the natural light or the midday rush—it’s a simple but effective way to infuse your intimacy with new energy.
Day 2: Explore New Sex Positions Together
Spend time browsing a book, video, or list of Kama Sutra positions to pick a few exciting ones to try. Share what you find intriguing and explain why, helping open communication about desires. Keep it simple—avoid anything overly complex to reduce the risk of injury early in the challenge. This collaborative activity encourages exploration and sets the tone for future days of discovery and fun.
Day 3: Have Sex Twice in a Day
Double the passion by having sex twice in one day. Whether it’s a morning session and another at night or an afternoon delight, this challenge pushes boundaries in a fun way. The increased intimacy can reignite sparks and deepen your connection. Take this opportunity to experiment with different moods or settings for each encounter, making both experiences unique and memorable.
Day 4: Read Erotica Together Before Sex
Take turns selecting and reading short erotica stories aloud to each other. This activity sets the mood while encouraging intimacy and shared vulnerability. Use online platforms or books to find engaging content that resonates with both of you. Reading erotica aloud can heighten anticipation, creating a playful atmosphere that leads to more passionate encounters. It’s an excellent way to discover what excites each other while strengthening your emotional and physical connection.
Day 5: Shower, Bath, or Spa Sex
Spice things up by taking your intimacy to the shower, bath, or spa. The warm water enhances relaxation while the new setting adds excitement. Be cautious of slippery surfaces and consider using silicone-based lube for comfort since water can reduce natural lubrication. Lathering up with soap can create playful moments, making the experience sensual and enjoyable. This steamy activity combines fun with romance, making it a perfect addition to your challenge.
Day 6: Full-Body Sensual Oil Massage
Indulge in a slow, intentional full-body oil massage that focuses on exploring each other’s bodies. Use a high-quality massage oil infused with aphrodisiac scents to heighten the experience. This activity is about intimacy and connection, letting your hands communicate affection and desire. Take your time to focus on neglected areas, enhancing trust and closeness. A sensual massage is a perfect way to relax and rediscover your partner’s body in a deeply intimate way.
tional. Touch and feel your partner’s body The aim today is to be intimate and know each other’s bodies. Try Wildfire All over Pleasure Oil – Its full of natural oils and aphrodisiacs!
Day 7: Quickie in 10 Minutes or Less
Turn up the excitement with a quickie lasting no more than 10 minutes. The spontaneity and urgency make it thrilling, whether it’s in the morning, during a lunch break, or while preparing breakfast. Try a fun location, like the kitchen or a closet, to add an adventurous twist. For an extra challenge, aim for more than one quickie in the same day, embracing the fun and playful energy this activity brings.
Day 8: Road Trip Adventure and Car Sex
Take a road trip and bring your intimacy along for the ride. Park in a secluded spot and share a passionate moment in the car. If car sex feels too adventurous, use the trip to build anticipation before heading home for a romantic encounter. The confined space and thrill of the setting create an intimate and playful atmosphere that’s sure to bring you closer together.
Day 9: Chair or Sofa Sex
Experiment with new dynamics by having sex on a chair or sofa. Try seated positions where you face each other for intimacy or face away for a more adventurous vibe. Furniture can create unique angles and heighten sensations, adding variety to your routine. This simple shift in location and positioning fosters creativity and excitement, making your connection feel fresh and invigorating.
Day 10: Watch Porn Together
Spend time watching a pornographic movie or a minimum of 30 minutes of curated content together. This activity can open up conversations about preferences and fantasies while setting the stage for exploration. Choose something both partners find intriguing, especially if it’s your first time. For bonus fun, engage in self-pleasure, mutual masturbation, or intercourse while watching. Sharing this experience strengthens trust and invites a playful energy into your intimacy.
Day 11: Oral Sex Only
Dedicate this day to exploring the art of oral pleasure. Focus entirely on giving and receiving, experimenting with techniques and flavored lubricants for variety. If you’re adventurous, try a playful twist like wearing edible underwear or flavored gels to enhance the experience. Communicate with your partner about what feels best, ensuring mutual satisfaction. By dedicating a day to oral intimacy, you create a space to deepen connection and enhance your skills.
Day 12: Take Charge and Dominate
Step into the dominant role today, taking control of the experience. Set the tone with clear communication about boundaries and desires. Introduce light BDSM elements like ropes or handcuffs for added excitement, ensuring consent and comfort at every step. Use a safe word system, such as red for stop and green for go, to maintain trust. This activity fosters confidence and allows couples to explore power dynamics in a safe and enjoyable way.
Day 13: Sex Without Your Senses
Dive into sensory play by blindfolding each other during intimacy. Removing sight heightens the other senses, intensifying touch, sound, and taste. Use warming or cooling lubricants to add a unique element to the experience. Let your hands and bodies do the talking, focusing on slow, deliberate movements. This activity creates a deeper physical connection and invites you to trust each other completely, making the encounter more thrilling and intimate.
Day 14: Find a New Spot in the House
Break out of routine by choosing an unconventional spot in your home for sex. Whether it’s the kitchen counter, bathroom floor, or even a closet, exploring new locations adds excitement and spontaneity. Different settings provide unique sensations and a refreshing change from the bedroom. This playful activity encourages creativity and turns everyday spaces into opportunities for memorable moments.
Day 15: Mutual Masturbation
Sit across from each other in bed and engage in mutual masturbation. Aim to climax simultaneously, creating a shared, intimate experience. Talk about what you’re feeling or guide each other’s techniques, building trust and understanding. This activity is not only arousing but also educational, helping you discover what your partner enjoys most. Observing each other fosters a deeper connection and opens doors to better communication in your sex life.
Day 16: Advanced Level Kama Sutra
Take your exploration to the next level by trying two or three challenging Kama Sutra positions. Focus on maintaining comfort and avoid pushing too far to prevent injury. Choose positions that require teamwork, creating opportunities for laughter and bonding even if they don’t work perfectly. This activity encourages experimentation and adds an adventurous spirit to your intimacy. Celebrate the attempt, regardless of how successful the execution might be.
Day 17: Explore Sex Toys Together
Dedicate the day to experimenting with sex toys, such as vibrators, dildos, or cock rings. Incorporate toys into your play to discover what feels best for both partners. Share the experience by using devices like We-Vibe or other shared toys designed for couples. This activity allows you to enhance sensations and learn new ways to please each other, creating a fun and collaborative exploration of pleasure.
Day 18: Write with Edible Paint
Use edible paints or pens to express your love by writing messages on each other’s bodies. Highlight the things you adore about your partner, celebrating their physical and emotional traits. Afterward, take turns licking the messages clean, turning words into an intimate experience. This playful and creative activity encourages affection and deepens emotional bonds while adding a sensual twist to your evening.
Day 19: Sex Without Intercourse
Focus on non-penetrative pleasure by using your hands, mouths, bodies, or toys. This activity allows you to explore each other in creative ways, enhancing intimacy without traditional intercourse. Experiment with techniques like sensual massages, oral play, or teasing each other’s erogenous zones. The goal is to connect deeply and rediscover how much pleasure comes from other forms of touch. It’s a great way to slow down and appreciate the journey over the destination.
Day 20: Share and Explore Fantasies
Exchange fantasies by email or a written note, making it easier to share deeply personal desires. Choose one fantasy to act out together, adding an exciting new dimension to your intimacy. Use costumes, props, or role-play to bring the fantasy to life, creating a safe space for exploration. This activity builds trust and deepens your understanding of each other’s desires, enhancing your emotional and physical connection.
Day 21: Visit a Sex Store Together
Plan a fun outing to a local sex store and explore new products with your partner. Each of you must choose an item to purchase, such as toys, games, or lingerie. This shared experience fosters open communication about your preferences and adds excitement to your intimacy. Visiting a sex store encourages curiosity and discovery, creating an opportunity to introduce something fresh and thrilling into your relationship.
Day 22: Focus on Your Pleasure Only
Dedicate this day entirely to one partner’s pleasure. The other takes on the role of exploring and finding every button that brings joy, without traditional intercourse. Use hands, mouths, or toys to cater to their desires. Communicate throughout to ensure the experience is satisfying and fulfilling. This activity deepens trust, allows the giver to learn more about their partner’s body, and leaves the receiver feeling cherished and adored.
Day 23: Take a Breather – Just Enjoy Sex
Slow things down with a simple, relaxing night of traditional sex. No added challenges or experimentation—just focus on being present with your partner. This day is about reconnecting and enjoying each other’s company without added pressure. Whether it’s slow and tender or passionate and fiery, let the mood guide you. Sometimes, stepping back from novelty reminds you of the beauty of shared intimacy in its most familiar form.
Day 24: Play a Sexy Game
Introduce some playful competition into your intimacy by choosing a sex game like dice, spinners, or a themed app. Let the game dictate the action, turning anticipation into excitement. These games often introduce fun prompts or positions that might be outside your usual routine. They spark laughter, curiosity, and a sense of adventure, bringing a fresh dynamic to your connection. Bonus points for creativity in incorporating your favourite toys into the gameplay.
Day 25: Slow It Down – ¼ Speed Sex
Transform your intimacy by slowing everything down to a quarter of your normal speed. This activity is all about savouring every moment, from the initial touches to the final climax. Spend at least 45 minutes focusing on deliberate, steady movements and deep eye contact. This slow and sensual approach heightens sensitivity and strengthens your connection. It’s a marathon, not a sprint, allowing both partners to fully immerse themselves in the experience.
Day 26: Be Dominated
Switch dynamics and let your partner take complete control. Allow them to set the pace and lead the experience. Incorporate ropes, handcuffs, or other light BDSM elements for added excitement, ensuring clear communication and the use of safe words like red for stop and green for go. This activity builds trust, adds a playful edge to your intimacy, and encourages both partners to explore their boundaries safely and consensually.
Day 27: Dinner Out with Under-the-Table Touching
Spice up your evening by enjoying a romantic dinner date with a naughty twist. Subtle under-the-table touching builds anticipation and adds an element of mischief. Be discreet to avoid discomfort for others but embrace the thrill of secrecy. After dinner, take the excitement home or to a hotel for a passionate follow-up. This activity rekindles excitement and reminds you of the playfulness that fuels romantic chemistry.
Day 28: Multiple Sessions in a Day
Challenge yourselves to have multiple sexual encounters in one day. Start with an intimate session, cool down with gentle caresses or cuddles, and then build the anticipation again. Whether you prefer edging or full orgasms, aim to keep the excitement flowing. This activity pushes physical and emotional boundaries, reminding you how much fun it can be to indulge in prolonged intimacy. It’s a day to prioritise pleasure and reconnect frequently.
Day 29: Focus Entirely on Your Partner
Devote this day to your partner’s pleasure, catering to their desires with hands, mouths, and toys. Let them guide you as you explore what feels best for them. Pay close attention to their reactions, adjusting your approach to maximise satisfaction. This activity encourages open communication and selflessness, helping you learn more about your partner’s needs. It leaves them feeling appreciated, loved, and deeply connected to you.
Day 30: Stay Up All Night Having Sex
End the challenge with a bang—literally—by staying up as long as you can to have sex. Revisit your favourite activities from the past 29 days, incorporating what you’ve learned about each other. Aim for multiple orgasms or sessions, pushing your limits while celebrating your shared journey. This final day is about having fun, reflecting on your progress, and enjoying the deepest level of intimacy. It’s the ultimate culmination of your efforts and connection.
BONUS BONUS ROUND
Love Is Art
Ok guys this is the big one are you ready?! So you’ve made it through the 30 days. You’re feeling the connection and it’s been great, there have been laughs and there have been some new things you have learnt.
This is the Ultimate task.
Purchase a Roll of Canvas (I got mine from Eckersley) and purchase some body safe paint (definitely make sure it is body safe and preferably water soluble) and you’re going to turn your sex into art together.
*For partners with more than two partners we advise swapping out a day of your choosing to ensure that everyone gets their day in the spotlight!
At your Service
Tiffany
Adult Lifestyle Centre Consultant, Educator and Intimacy Adventurer
30 Day Sex Challenge
What is the purpose of the 30-Day Sex Challenge?
The 30-Day Sex Challenge is designed to strengthen intimacy and connection between partners by encouraging daily sexual activities. It focuses on communication, exploration, and fun. The challenge introduces variety into your relationship, helping you discover new ways to connect physically and emotionally. By dedicating time to each other, couples can reignite their passion and deepen their bond.
What if a partner isn’t comfortable with a specific activity?
Consent is key throughout the challenge. If either partner feels uncomfortable with an activity, they can use a VETO day or modify it before starting. Open communication is essential—discuss boundaries and preferences to ensure mutual respect. The goal is to push comfort levels safely, but never to pressure or force participation. Adapting the challenge to fit your relationship ensures a positive experience for both.
How do you manage the challenge with a busy schedule?
Flexibility is built into the challenge to accommodate busy lives. Partners can schedule activities for convenient times, and pause days are allowed for special circumstances like travel or menstruation. Quick activities, like a 10-minute quickie or road trip make-out session, are perfect for tight schedules. By prioritising intimacy even on busy days, couples can maintain the challenge’s momentum without feeling overwhelmed.
Can the challenge be extended or modified?
Yes, the challenge can be extended if days are missed, but it must not exceed 40 days. Partners are also allowed to modify up to two activities each before starting to better align with their comfort levels. Adding or replacing activities with mutual agreement can keep the experience fresh and enjoyable. Customising the challenge ensures it fits your unique relationship dynamic.
What are the benefits of completing the 30-Day Sex Challenge?
Couples often report improved communication, increased intimacy, and a renewed sense of passion after completing the challenge. Trying new activities fosters trust and curiosity, strengthening your emotional and physical connection. Additionally, the challenge encourages creativity and playfulness, reminding partners of the joy in their relationship. It’s a powerful way to reignite the spark and deepen your bond.
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