So often we are asked to help people with choosing a sex toy, whether it’s their first adult toy for themselves, or they’re surprising their partner. Or the partner is too scared to come into the store. We all have been asked. Of course there’s the standard questions we always ask about what you or they are into, what helps them gets there…
But the amount of times we hear partners say “I don’t know” or “I just want a vibrator” is absolutely insane honestly!
So let’s breakdown the best sex toy categories and what they’re most useful for. That way you have a vague idea when you pop into Adultsmart to grab your first sex toy or your surprise for your partner.
Clitoral Sex Toy Vibrators
These cute little things can pack a bunch, ranging from a small little bullet like shape to bigger ones similar to mascara wands and computer mouses. They are amazing for beginners as there’s no need to insert them. Also they’re easy to use during sex with your partner, and for the most part they’re incredibly discrete.
If you don’t want something too crazy, expensive, or intricate clitoral vibrators are the way to go!

Clitoral Sex Toy Wands
You looking for earth shattering vibrations? Wands have you covered, these can be used all over the body to massage and stimulate anywhere you want (hello relax the back muscles).
These are amazing for people who want high level vibrations. Great to be used during sex but can be a little bit bulky if you get the classic style that are large and plug into the wall.
Clitoral AirTech
So toys like the Womanizer, Satisfyer, and We-Vibe Melt, one word… Mind-blowing.
Toys with this air technology replicate oral sex by using air chambers. Gentler than a vibrator but getting deeper into the nerves. Incredible for a first timer. Again they don’t need to be inserted or anything crazy, but you do need to go slow. And can also be used during sex with your partner.
G-Spot Sex Toys
Next one doing exactly as the name described, they are purely for stimulating the G-Spot. If they vibrate and they’re strong enough you can also use then as a clitoral vibe, just not at the same time.
While these can be an awesome way to learn about your own anatomy they’re not going to be great for partnered sex in the heterosexual sense. Lesbians can obviously have a field day with this one!
Rabbit Vibrators
You want the best of both worlds? G-Spot and clitoral? Boy do we have a deal for you!
These toys will have a vibrator that will sit on your clit while the rest of the toy will stimulate the g-spot. They do this either via vibration or through some kind of movement like rotating, waving, etc.
These are awesome for people who know for sure that they like a little bit of both and will be using this for solo play. There’s a huge variety of these so if you’re buying for a partner try to find out what movements they like best before buying!

Anal Sex Toys
So, anal toys will definitely be recommended to you by our staff any time you bring up wanting to dip your toe into or try anal of any variety. Anal toys are amazing for training your way up to full anal sex. Or even just as a nice extra addition to whatever kind of sex you’re already having.
For the people with vaginas this toy is going to add extra pressure on the back wall of your vagina making it so much easier for your toys or your partner to hit your g-spot.
For the ones with penises we really don’t have to say much, prostates people, prostates! Not only are the orgasms incredible, but it’s good for your health!
Buttplugs, prostate massagers, anal beads, whatever your heart desires we can help.
Masturbators/Sleeves
Obviously there’s quite a lot of options for the vulva owners out there, but penises can have fun too.
Think Fleshlights and Pocket Pussies.
These are sleeves made to increase the sensation of masturbating and feel a lot closer to real sex than your hand. They’re made out of a blend of materials made to feel close to human skin. You can either go the nice standard toys that you move up and down yourself.
Or you can go for the higher tech ones that do just about everything you can think of including going fully hands free.
We really do understand why you guys get so flustered
When you come in and realise how many options there are to choose from. But honestly as long as you can tell us what you or your partner is into we can almost always help… Even being honest enough to say you’re not sure is so much better than making us play a guessing game!
We just want you guys to have great orgasms.
Lynn is a consultant at the Adult Lifestyle Centres.
Choosing a Sex Toy
How do I choose the right sex toy as a beginner?
For beginners, it’s best to start with something simple and non-intimidating, like a bullet vibrator or a small dildo. Consider factors such as size, shape, and material to ensure comfort. Opt for body-safe materials like silicone or ABS plastic. Reading reviews and seeking recommendations from trusted sources can also help you make an informed choice. Starting with an adjustable or multi-functional toy allows you to explore and find what works best.
What materials are safe for sex toys?
Body-safe materials include medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, glass, and ABS plastic. These materials are non-porous, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean, ensuring safety and hygiene. Avoid toys made from jelly or rubber that may contain harmful chemicals like phthalates. Always check product labels or manufacturer details for material specifications, and choose reputable brands that prioritise safety standards.
Should I choose a toy with vibration or without?
Whether to choose a vibrating or non-vibrating toy depends on personal preferences. Vibrating toys can provide more intense stimulation and are great for external use, like clitoral or nipple stimulation. Non-vibrating toys, like dildos or anal plugs, offer more controlled sensations and are better suited for internal use. If unsure, a toy with adjustable vibration settings is a versatile option that lets you experiment with different intensities.
How do I decide between rechargeable and battery-operated toys?
Rechargeable toys are eco-friendly and convenient, offering long-term cost savings and consistent power. Battery-operated toys, while less expensive upfront, may require frequent battery replacements. If portability and travel convenience are priorities, battery-powered toys might be more practical. Evaluate your needs, frequency of use, and budget to determine which option best suits your lifestyle.
Can couples use sex toys together?
Yes, many sex toys are designed for couples to enhance intimacy and exploration. Toys like vibrating rings, remote-controlled devices, or dual-stimulation wands can be enjoyed together. Open communication is essential to discuss preferences and boundaries. Introducing toys into your relationship can add excitement and variety, strengthening your connection and fostering a sense of playfulness and trust.
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